If you want to truly find the abundance and success you seek in life, there are a few factors you need to be aware of that can potentially sabotage your progress on the path to achieving your goals. On their own, most of them don’t seem like they could have a dramatic impact on your life, but in combination, the following three factors can lower your self-esteem, ruin your self-confidence, and cause you to doubt yourself over and over again.
As you look at these three factors (we could even call them weapons), do a quick evaluation of your own life and try to determine if you let any of them affect you on a regular basis. If so, there is always hope. You can turn the corner and overcome the things that sabotage your success. It just requires a little effort. So without further ado, here is the list.
#1: Negative Experiences in Your Life
We all have responsibilities we have to take care of every day, and sometimes these responsibilities weigh on us in a negative way, causing us to lose sight of our deepest dreams and desires for success. For example, if you miss the mark on a big project at work, it may negatively affect your confidence when working on future projects. It can make you feel inferior to your colleagues and less willing to take on challenges. You may also begin to connect the negative experiences you’re having in your life right now to past experiences, which is always a dangerous road to go down.
If you want to overcome your negative experiences, you have to learn to see beyond the current moment, as well as your current failures. Always pick yourself back up again after a misstep and realize that the journey is long and you will have new opportunities to prove yourself all the time. Use the negative experiences in your life as building blocks to strengthen and fortify you against future challenges.
#2: The Fear of Failure
Fear is one of the single most crippling problems in the world today. Kids don’t attend college because they are afraid of the financial toll and the work load, adults sit in fear watching others take risks and pursue their dreams while they embrace misery and disappointment, and everyone procrastinates pursuing a wholesome, loving relationship for fear of being rejected yet again.
In reality, the fear of failure is much more debilitating than failure itself. If you keep a positive outlook on life, you understand that each failure you pass through is preparing you for your next big success. On the other hand, if you never take any chances, you are forced to live with your fear of failure forever. After a while you begin to see yourself as unworthy, useless, instead of seeing yourself as perfectly capable of achieving everything you want in life. If you want to stop sabotaging your life, you need to begin by eliminating your fear of failure. Face your fears and push through them to success.
#3: Being Unrealistic With Your Goals
Successful people like Will Smith, Oprah Winfrey, J.K. Rowling, and Jim Carrey didn’t win awards and change the world overnight. It took years of dedicated work to elevate them to the top of their craft, and even after they made it they continued to work to maintain their position.
When you begin to set unrealistic goals for yourself, you are automatically setting yourself up for failure. Even if you are the most talented person in the world, success comes one step at a time. You have to learn to create a detailed plan and follow that plan through to the end. Doing this effectively requires a certain level of patience. There is nothing wrong with shooting for the stars (actually you should be shooting for the stars), but you need to plan out short-term goals that will eventually lead to bigger ones. This is the only way to ensure success.